3. BOOZE- OK . in a perfect world we would be recession proof, dangerously thin and we would have a elaborate open bar with a certified mix-ologist who can conjure delicious alcoholic treats all night long. But .... we have none of those things. we have 2 union representatives who are nice enough to serve up beer , ice and sodas ..(tipping makes your drink taste better ) We will have beer.. and ..(drum roll please)  our reception hall allows you to bring your own bottle to keep at your table. I know how incredibly tacky it might sound to some outsiders.. but let's keep it real.. that's freaking fantastic to most people who are particular about what they want anyway. If you are a jack n coke man ... bring your jack . If you prefer a Lil Cognac... stick it in your purse and come on down ! There was no way that Tom and I would have ever been able to figure out the perfect formula of what liquor to buy . It would be a costly nightmare. and let's face it we have enough stress. I am fortunate to know a professional "mixologist" (or bar maid for all y'all old schoolers) Joy , who is also a guest / consultant  has been gracious enough to devise a signature drink , and a big ol' batch of spicy Bal'mar Bloody Mary .. (Tom's fav) 

4. What to wear??? - OK .. well it's the night before Halloween .. I would be ecstatic to see awesome costumes. But I know not everyone is a Halloween nut like us.. but a lot of our friends are weirdos like us.. so i can only hope that we see some unique costumes. But it's not a requirement. I have been asked this question by a couple people and I guess I wasn't really expecting anything one way or another. It is an evening event.. so if you are looking for an excuse to get all dolled up and fancy... go for it. If you wake up that day and think to yourself "self... it's a jeans and t shirt kind of day " effing wear jeans and a t-shirt. I won't shit talk you for being comfortable.  I refuse to be that 'bridezilla' who makes the parents of the bride and groom dress a certain way .. or anyone else for that matter. Come as you are. (but if you have a cool costume.. seriously .. that's what Halloween is all about.)

5.Gifts - this is a weird subject for us.. to ask for things.. but we know people will buy things just because it's a wedding. so I am trying to specify as tactfully as possible. "we want money. that's what i want.. lots of money." (flying lizards in case you were curious) we did not register for many gifts. a few here and there and then we started to realize we have a lot of stuff. We did register for our honeymoon , cause well that costs money and we aren't exactly made of it. so if you are pondering "what do you give the couple that has everything?"  (figuratively speaking of course) The answer is money. we take it all , cash , good checks , money orders and rolled coins. ha. just kidding.. rolled coins are a pain in the ass. No seriously check out our registry on Carnival . There is no need in someone wasting money and time picking us up things at Bed , Bath & Beyond when we have all that stuff. and I love to shop so what we don't have I end up buying . All of that being said .. Let me clarify.. although we don't need appliances and such.and oh my sweet Jesus please NO TOWELS (we have towels out the wazoo, our hall closet is crammed with towels). we truly genuinely appreciate the one of a kind , hand made, artistically crafted gifts. We are surrounded by a large group of artists in many mediums , and being a crafty hand made kinda gal myself.. I get a little misty eyed when i am given something I know someone took time and effort to make especially for me. There isn't a registry for paintings ,sculptures , handmade jewelry and quilts.. but there should be . 

6. Children , and why there won't be many at the wedding -  because we sell them to the Gypsies. ha just kidding.... I have to be honest.. Originally Tom & I laid out the guest list to include children . it was close to 300. we scaled back.. made some cuts... eliminated children .. we got closer to 140. that's still an insane amount of people when you consider that you don't speak to that many people in a month. This is an evening event.. and then we started considering the adult oriented scenarios that might play out with a combination of photo opportunities ,music, alcohol and our wedding party dynamic. We realized it would be a benefit to the children if they were not exposed to those scenarios . There are a few children in the wedding party (family) I'm pretty sure arrangement's are going to be made so that they leave around bed time ; ) So please don't be offended that the invites do not include your children , We know what a joy all of the little kiddies are.. but to help keep them from needing emotional therapy in the future.. we think it's best to leave them at home ; )